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What is it?
Dating violence is controlling, abusive and aggressive behavior in a romantic relationship. It can happen in straight or gay relationships. It can include verbal, emotional, physical, or sexual abuse, or a combination of them.
Controlling behavior includes:
Physical abuse includes:
Sexual abuse includes:
Anyone can be a victim of dating violence. Both boys and girls are victims, but boys and girls abuse their partners in different ways. Girls are more likely to yell, threaten to hurt themselves, pinch, slap, scratch, or kick. Boys injure girls more, are more likely to punch their partner, and more likely to force them to participate in unwanted sexual activity. Some teen victims experience violence occasionally. Others are abused more often, sometimes daily.
If you are a victim of dating violence, you might...
You're not alone
· One in three teenagers has experienced violence in a dating relationship.
· 50 percent to 80 percent of teens have reported knowing others who were involved in violent relationships.
· 15 percent of teen girls and boys have reported being victims of severe dating violence (defined as being hit, thrown down, or attacked with a weapon).
· 8 percent of 8th and 9th grade students have reported being victims of sexual dating violence.
· Young women, ages 16 to 24 years, experience the highest rates of relationship violence.
If you think you are in an abusive relationship, get help immediately. Don't keep your concerns to yourself. Talk to someone you trust like a parent, teacher, school principal, counselor or nurse. If you choose to tell, you should know that some adults are mandated reporters. This means they are legally required to report neglect or abuse to someone else, like the police or child protective services. You can ask people if they are mandated reporters and then decide what you want to do. Some examples of mandated reporters are teachers, counselors, doctors, social workers, and in some cases, even coaches or activity leaders.
Help Someone Else-- If you know someone who might be in an abusive relationship, you can help.
On-Campus Help at Santa Clara University
Counseling Center: 554-4172, Benson 210
Wellness Center: 554-4409, located in Malley Fitness Center
Office for Student Life: 554-4583; Benson 205
If you want to help deciding who to talk to, call this Helpline at 1-800-FYI-CALL, or an anonymous crisis line in your area. You might also want to talk to a trusted family member, a friend's parent, an adult neighbor or friend, an older sibling or cousin, or other experienced person who you trust.